Feeling pressure when facing a big decision might tempt us towards making a hasty decision. I admit that when I am wrestling with making an important decision; changing careers, relocating; relationships; school; children I lean a little too heavily on what Google might say about it. With access to so much online information, we search for the easiest, most convenient solution to bring an end to our worry and suffering. How is this working for us? Are we happy with the outcomes?
If your decision-making skills could use a little refining here are a few suggestions to consider.
1. Pause
Do not do anything just yet. Take a moment to breathe. Even though it may feel uncomfortable and unnatural to rest and sit in the chaos, it allows you time to reflect, and consider your options, feelings and gather your thoughts. Refrain from making a gut-reaction decision that might cause you regret in the long run. Let your inner voice have a place in your decision instead of competing with the outside world.
2. Explore
Ask, “what are the possibilities?” Think broadly, brainstorm and gather information. This is your opportunity to research and analyze all your options. Depending on what style of decision maker you are (more on that at www.manegmenthelp.org) you might read articles, talk to a friend, watch Vlogs, read Blogs, or book an appointment with a counsellor. “Take time for all things: great haste makes great waste.” Benjamin Franklin
3. Deliberate
Now that you have gathered some external information, now is the time to consider your beliefs and values regarding the situation. Ask, “how would I feel if I choose…?” “Does it align with my beliefs, or does it go against them? Rate them according to how important each one is to you and list the benefits and risks weighed against all the possible options. This is an important step to help minimize the risk of doing something we might later regret. “In the company of your inner voice, the right decisions are easily made.” Eleesha
4. Execute
Make your decision. You are getting closer to seeing the horizon and can begin planning. Create an itemized list in order of priority of all the tasks related to your decision to help manage your time and keep things on track. This might include calling on other supports and reaching out for some of the resources you found in your research to help you execute the plan and take some of the pressure off you. There are helpful organizations, friends, family etc. that can offer up a hand.
5. Reflect
No doubt, this is not your first or last difficult decision you will make so take the time to look at what worked, what did not and would you do anything differently the next time. Change is never easy and sometimes comes with pain but can also be a time of growth and maturity. Often, we learn more about our selves and what matters most and maybe even who we can count on. Try to resist the siren call to action and instead release some of the pressure by following these simple decision-making steps. It may not be the quickest and easiest process, but the end results may be much more rewarding.
Resources: www.forbes.com/sites/biancamillercole/2020/04/14; www.psychologytoday/pauladavis
By: Tanya, Assistant Director