Feeling alone. It is a scary feeling. You feel like you have no one to talk to and no one you can count on. The dictionary definition is: feeling sperate, apart, or isolated from others. This is how many people feel when experiencing an unexpected pregnancy. Whether you're in a committed relationship, single, or unsure about the future, it's natural to feel isolated and alone during this time. However, it's important to remember that you're not truly alone, and there are resources and support systems available to help you through this journey.
Understanding Loneliness: Loneliness can manifest in various ways during an unexpected pregnancy.
Friends
You might feel isolated from your friends because you don’t want them to know you are dealing with this and/or feel that they don’t understand what you are going through. You are afraid that if you tell them what’s going on they might think of you differently.
Partner
You might feel distant from your partner because you are unsure how they will react to the news of being pregnant. Will they be happy or upset with the news? Will they be respectful of your decision or will they try to pressure you to do something you don’t want to do? You are worried about the strain that this might put on your relationship so it might seem easier to just not tell them.
Family
You might also feel separated or at odds with your family members. Depending on your upbringing, some families will be more accepting of the news than others. You think that if you just don’t tell them, they won’t find out and you won’t have to deal with the disappointment and judgement. However, this only exacerbates the feelings of loneliness and isolation.
So what can you do if you are feeling alone in an unexpected pregnancy? Try these coping strategies:
- Reach Out for Support: Remember that you don't have to navigate this journey alone. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or mentors who can provide emotional support and guidance. If you're feeling overwhelmed, consider speaking with a counselor or therapist who specializes in pregnancy-related issues.
- Connect with Other Expectant Parents: Seek out support groups or online communities for women facing unexpected pregnancies. Connecting with others who are going through similar experiences can help you feel less alone and provide valuable insights and advice.
- Educate Yourself: Take the time to learn about all of your options, including parenting, adoption, and abortion. Knowledge is empowering, and understanding your choices can help you make informed decisions about your future.
- Prioritize Self-Care: Pregnancy can be physically and emotionally taxing, so it's essential to prioritize self-care. Make time for activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it's reading a book, taking a walk in nature, or practicing mindfulness exercises.
- Communicate with Your Partner: If you're in a relationship, open and honest communication with your partner is crucial during this time. Share your fears, hopes, and concerns with each other, listen to each other and be respectful of each other’s view points and beliefs.
- Seek Professional Help: If you're struggling to cope with feelings of loneliness, anxiety, or depression, don't hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide you with the tools and support you need to navigate this challenging time.
Remember, it's okay to feel scared, uncertain, and alone during an unexpected pregnancy. However, it's essential to reach out for support, educate yourself about your options, and prioritize self-care as you navigate this journey. You are not alone, and there are people and resources available to help you every step of the way.
Mea Centre specializes in supporting anyone facing an unexpected pregnancy. We are here to give you information on your options, a safe place to be heard, and a confidential environment to get support. To book an appointment with one of our support workers click HERE. To read more about your options click HERE.
By: Elizabeth, Executive Director